Online dating with army men
It’s making sure to text him good night before he bunks in. Each second I spent apart from my boyfriend makes each moment together twice as sweet. I always imagined dating someone who would go to college and I would see on some weekends and over the holidays. Maybe the mail screwed it up, or the Army hasn’t sent them out yet. I am 22 yrs old and from the great state of Alabama. We’ve been together for 7 months now, so you could say that I’m still green at being an army girlfriend.
It’s sending him a funny picture that will brighten his long, hard day. It’s also, according to my Army friends, one of the most rewarding careers a person can have, and one of the greatest things one can be a part of. A soldier is brave, he’s smart, and he’s a tough son of a gun. Feel free to show your pride in the conventional ways: a bumper sticker, a t-shirt, etc. So prepare yourself, you’re about to embark on what can often be a trying adventure. Each time I can make his life easier, his simple gratitude fills my heart. But I fell in love with this great guy who wanted to serve his country. I finally got his address from his parents the week before and I’ve written him 5 letters. The way Bubba and I met (and lol no he’s not some kind of backwoods redneck haha I promise ladies but that’s his nickname he’s had since he was little and its just suck for the past 25 years) is a really great story, I think its kind of like a lifetime movie type of story.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.
He says he doesn’t remember this and I actually didn’t remember this until we were at his parents house one time and he showed me his driver’s license from back then and suddenly that memory came flying back to me. Now honestly I couldn’t rightly tell you just exactly how we met for the second time, the time that was a better experience haha.Truth be told, it’s hard for them to turn this off.That coupled with the stress and exhaustion that comes with Army life can make it hard for him to spend lots of time planning things for the two of you to do together.I had heard them all talk about him here and there telling stories that they shared with him, but still I never gave it a second thought.
His best friend kept telling Bubba about me and what we were doing, what I was doing, how I was doing and this started and December (I found all this a lot later) and then that Feb we were all over at Rachel’s place having game night and one of his friends was talking to Bubba on the phone and then his friend called me over there and said that there was someone on the phone that wanted to talk to me so I was like ok. It was the first time I had talked to him in years!He says that we met inside the house and after that we stayed outside just me and him talking the entire time and we had a fun time just talking and he today tells me that from that night on he had to have me that he had to make me his, well, he didn’t quite make that happen.